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When was the last time you received a compliment? Can you even remember? In “Managing” by the late Mary Kay Ash, she explains that by age six about 90 percent of what we have heard is negative. To counter the stinging culture of criticism that we so often encounter, Mary Kay Cosmetics goes out of its way to make employees feel special, loved, admired, and respected. Today, think about how to do this at work, with your own direct reports. In what ways can you “include them as partners rather than chastising them as critics?” Turn the page…

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“…out in unfettered space the shallow tongue shackled to mindless mind clutters infinity.” [MacLeod, 1984]

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When it occurs seamlessly communication is a social lubricant, a means to inform, enlighten, persuade, uplift, and embrace. As an elixir for individual esteem, verbal confluence is a surefire way to foster community. Evans (1996) in The Verbally Abusive Relationship explains the concept of reciprocal dialogue: “Mutuality is a way of being with another person … by means of clear communication and empathetic understanding.” On the flip side, conversations can be a form of stealth weaponry, and a very real way by which employees are emotionally scarred. Bureaucratic, or ego dominated discourse is an exercise in verbal beatings that beget sycophantic pleasers. Bedian (2002) explains learned superiority in bureaucrats, a process that creates individuals who are rigid, suspicious, easily slighted, distrustful of others, insensitive, undiplomatic, and inconsiderate. Because they are one-sided, sessions with these bosses are typically painful and unpleasant. They communicate ineffectively, dishonoring those around them. Turn the page…

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