Feedback given in a spirit of mutual support is a world away from the punitive, one-sided, backhanded approach that is so characteristic of egocentric individuals. Those who are uplifters, who seek to positively contribute to other people’s lives, do not display their character (or lack thereof) in a mean-spirited fashion. These individuals are too noble to go for the jugular when it’s exposed, or when someone else is unable to fight back. If you have an issue with someone and if you behave in a manner which is underhanded, stingy, and vengeful, in the end whom will you have helped? Be assertive – persistent in a nice way, in a manner that respects the boundaries of those around you. For a narcissist, the emphasis is on building self importance through other denigration. The only sense of power and importance they derive is from destroying the inner scaffolding of those they perceive as enemies. Turn the page…
Category: Behavior Tags: cyberbullying, feedback, karma, performance appraisal
“Make sure your words are sweet; you may have to eat them.”
Why do people bully? What motivates individuals to treat other people in a manner which erodes their dignity, deflates their self-confidence, and belittles their self-esteem? Why do some people feel comfortable behaving in a heavy handed, authoritative, and punitive fashion? Discovery News provides one possible explanation:
‘”The simple reason is it shows that they have power over others,” agreed Marlene Snyder, Development Director for the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program in the United States, based in Clemson, S.C. “The reason that they do it repeatedly is that they are getting away with it. Nobody is calling them on their bad behavior. When they aren’t called on it they think, ‘Well, it must be O.K.'” Turn the page…






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