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“…out in unfettered space the shallow tongue shackled to mindless mind clutters infinity.” [MacLeod, 1984]

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When it occurs seamlessly communication is a social lubricant, a means to inform, enlighten, persuade, uplift, and embrace. As an elixir for individual esteem, verbal confluence is a surefire way to foster community.Evans (1996) in The Verbally Abusive Relationship explains the concept of reciprocal dialogue: “Mutuality is a way of being with another person … by means of clear communication and empathetic understanding.” On the flip side, conversations can be a form of stealth weaponry, and a very real way by which employees are emotionally scarred.Bureaucratic, or ego dominated discourse is an exercise in verbal beatings that beget sycophantic pleasers. Bedian (2002) explains learned superiority in bureaucrats, a process that creates individuals who are rigid, suspicious, easily slighted, distrustful of others, insensitive, undiplomatic, and inconsiderate. Because they are one-sided, sessions with these bosses are typically painful and unpleasant.They communicate ineffectively, dishonoring those around them. Turn the page…

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“Make sure your words are sweet; you may have to eat them.”

Why do people bully? What motivates individuals to treat other people in a manner which erodes their dignity, deflates their self-confidence, and belittles their self-esteem? Why do some people feel comfortable behaving in a heavy handed, authoritative, and punitive fashion? Discovery News provides one possible explanation:

‘”The simple reason is it shows that they have power over others,” agreed Marlene Snyder, Development Director for the Olweus Bullying Prevention Program in the United States, based in Clemson, S.C. “The reason that they do it repeatedly is that they are getting away with it. Nobody is calling them on their bad behavior. When they aren’t called on it they think, ‘Well, it must be O.K.'” Turn the page…

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